No, not in THAT way – I’m talking about the type of girl crush where you’ve admired another female, usually from afar – whether it was a celebrity, a workmate or someone in your class at school.
My first girl crush was on Lucinda*; we were in Grade 5. I thought she had the most beautiful name; and she had pretty silvery blonde straight hair. Lucinda was the undisputed fashion leader in our grade, and wore all the latest trends. My favourites were a dark blue velvet skirt with tiny pink roses on it; and her cork platform sandals (hey it was 1976; don’t judge me!).
I must have talked about her a lot, because when I brought home the school photo that year and pointed her out (wearing THAT skirt and sandals – see pic!), my Mum sniffed and said that she thought my girl crush actually had a big nose. I was crushed. No not really, but it did help me see my idol had feet of clay – or cork, anyways π
Girl Crush Circa 1979
In early high school I discovered celebrities. Brooke Shields and Diane Lane (pictured on the cover of Dolly circa 1979) were both idols of mine at that time.
Speaking of Dolly, I’ve long had a girl crush on Lisa Wilkinson – she was the editor of Dolly back then, now the host of the Today Show.
After I finished school, Ellie* from my youth group was the girl I loved to hate my girl crush.
Ellie had everything I didn’t (or so it seemed to me) – a happy, stable family life; wealthy parents; and they all lived in a fabulous house with a pool. She was smart and had a great job; heaps of gorgeous clothes; and a car; while I was just a poor tertiary student.
All the guys agreed she was the hottest girl in our youth group and vied for her attention. It didn’t help when my boyfriend of the time confessed that he’d had his eye on HER, not me, initially!
To top it all off, she played keyboard in a band!
Yet for all that, when the hubster and I bumped into her years later, he couldn’t understand what on earth I’d ever seen in her!
Girl Crushing when you’re over 40!
Fast forward twenty (or more!) years, and it seems I’m still no stranger to the girl crush.
These days I’m girl crushing on quite a few of our own lovely Aussie bloggers … I find them truly inspirational.
I love reading their posts, seeing their social media and what’s happening on their blog. I swoon with happiness if by chance they respond to one of my tweets, or even visit and comment on my blog!
But … at the same time it is a two-edged sword, because then I start comparing myself and my little blog with all their comments, Facebook/Twitter/Instagram following, etc.
How do I find the happy balance?! If you have any secrets I’d love to hear them!
Aroha @ Colours of Sunset says
My girl crushes have always been celebrities, and the biggest one was Kate Hudson. Just b/c I think she’s gorgeous π I read a quote about comparison recently “Comparison is the thief of joy”. x
Janet Camilleri says
Great quote Aroha – I will have to print that out & hang it above my desk! Diane Lane had the most amazing long hair back in the day, I was so jealous of it – but you’re right she looks even better now!
Aroha @ Colours of Sunset says
p.s I have to say, Diane Lane aged great! she’s much more gorgeous now!
Rhianna says
Oh I totally get bloggy girl crushes and well and super excited on the occasions that they choose to interact with me. A few even asked to be my FB friends and that sent me into overdrive I tell you.
Janet Camilleri says
LOL glad to know I’m not the only one Rhi π
victoria says
Olivia Newton John !!
Pinky Poinker says
I still love Dianne Lane. She’s gorgeous. Did you see her in “Unfaithful”? Brilliant.
Rae Hilhorst says
I’m with you on blogger crushes, I am over the moon for a week when someone I respect leaves a comment on my blog. Well actually I sing for a week when anyone comments on my blog, I hope I am not alone, if so I will crawl back under my rock. xxx Rae
Min says
I totally had a girl crush on Brooke Shields too. Her birthday is the same day as mine! I was so jealous of her in Blue Lagoon – she was so beautiful in that *sigh*. Re the bloggy crushes – yeah I know where you’re coming from. There are many bigger bloggers who I so admire. I read their blogs religiously and leave comments but I haven’t had any of them comment on my blog. I think I would keel over in shock if that happened! LOL I also see so many other bloggers get WAY more comments than me … but there is no point dwelling on it. I’ll just keep doing my thing and hopefully there are others out there that enjoy what I do. I love the quote that Aroha posted above – I’ve seen it before and it is so true π xo