Driving home from a seminar some years ago, I puzzled over what I had learned.
It was horrible weather – torrential rain – yet despite that I had been so intrigued by the topic, that I was lured away from the comfort of my own couch for the evening.
That topic was the Five Love Languages as devised by Dr Gary D Chapman in his book of the same name. But I just couldn’t work out which love language best applied to me – or what the hubster’s was, either!
The Five Love Languages
In case you’re not familiar with the concept, the five love languages are:
- Quality Time
- Words of Affirmation
- Gifts
- Touch
- Acts of Service
Although we all give and receive love in all of these ways, usually one language is dominant. It can be a real advantage to your relationship, when you know and can communicate love to your partner, in their particular language (and vice versa).
Can’t Work Out Your Love Language? Here’s Why:
I’ve since learned that if you are finding it hard to decide which is your primary language, it’s either because:
- your love tank is empty and you have very little in the way of loving experiences in your relationship to draw on, OR
- your love tank is so full that you’re really not sure just how it got that way.
Thankfully, the latter applied to me – what can I say, I have a wonderful hubster!
I just couldn’t decide what the hubster’s love language was – until I got home …
As I turned into our driveway, I noticed that the roller door was up, and the garage light on – a welcoming beacon on such a stormy night.
And that’s when it hit me – ACTS OF SERVICE! The hubster had thoughtfully prepared for my return, so that I didn’t have to clamber out of the car in the rain to open the garage door (we didn’t have a remote back then).
As for me? I’m guessing my primary love language is either touch, or words of affirmation – but as long as my love tank is filled regularly, I’m certainly not complaining 😉 !
What do you think is your love language?! (If you’re really stuck, you can do a quick quiz online to work out your love language)
Linking up with Essentially Jess, because I Blog On Tuesdays.
With thanks to my friend Courtney for reminding me of this story!