GAYDAR: a word created when you combine “gay” and “radar”. As in, do you have the innate ability to detect if a person is gay?
According to my kids, my gaydar is hopeless.
Example 1:
I was at a workplace for twelve months before somebody mentioned that one of our young male colleagues was in fact, gay. I was astonished – he actually had a very close friendship with one of our young female colleagues, and I had (mistakenly) assumed that perhaps they were an item. Apparently nothing was further from the truth – it was more a case of the girl with the gay best friend. And I’d had NO inkling, despite working with both of them for a year!
When my colleagues realised that I wasn’t very clued in, they then joked: “And I suppose you don’t know that Mr X (another older male colleague) is also gay!”. Needless to say the look on my face gave me away.
Example 2:
Just last year we attended a large function. On the way home, Mr 19 & Miss 17 agreed that one of the young guests (that we’ve met at functions like this many times over the years) was DEFINITELY gay. I wasn’t sure I agreed – but they were adamant.
Then just in the last few weeks we heard through the grapevine that this young person has indeed “come out”. My kids were right! I seriously didn’t have a clue, even when the kids insisted it was so.
Obviously my gaydar is not very well attuned ;-).
Mind you, I don’t think that’s a bad thing.
I think it shows that I accept people as they are. I care about who they are, not what their sexual orientation might happen to be. Quite frankly, as a happily married woman, that’s none of my business!
The world might be a much better place, if there were more clueless people like me!
How’s YOUR Gaydar?!
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