practically an antique! 😉
It’s Monday, which means it’s Confession Time with Kirsty at My Home Truths. This week she wanted to know about our best experience EVER.
There are so many memories and experiences that crowd my mind, but I’ve finally narrowed it down to one.
Waking up next to my brand new husband the day after our wedding.
Dreams really do come true.
We’d had a beautiful wedding day and that is definitely right up there in my top ten of best experiences ever.
But to wake up the next morning, and to KNOW that I’d made the right decision – NOTHING can top that.
You see, it nearly wasn’t so.
When I first met the hubster, I was actually engaged to somebody else.
I had a rather dysfunctional childhood, growing up with a parent with severe mental health issues. I first got engaged at 20 after a whirlwind romance. I was desperate to have somebody love me, and to have a home of my own. Except, as is often the case when we are psychologically fragile and damaged, I chose the wrong person.
Even as he got on bended knee and presented me with that velvet box (in the middle of a crowded restaurant), I suddenly K.N.E.W. it was wrong. Even though I’d known it was coming and had wanted it desperately. But the pressure! How could I say NO in front of so many people? When he’d spent so much money on the ring? When we’d made plans?
Stubbornly I squashed my doubts and plunged headlong into wedding plans (I even bought my wedding dress!). I think everybody knew it was a bad move – and they tried to tell me – but I refused to listen.
Meanwhile, at work I’d met the man who is now my hubster and we’d become friends. He was quite shy (I ended up being his first – and last! – girlfriend) and I wonder if he felt “safe” with me because I WAS engaged. But as time went by, I realised that I was strongly attracted to this man who WASN’T my fiance. That finally gave me the courage to do what I should have done in the first place – and finish that doomed relationship.
Looking back now, I can see my ex wasn’t even a particularly nice person. Actually, most of my former boyfriends were lovely – it was simply that we just weren’t right for each other. But him? What the hell was I thinking???!
Making Sure the Morning After Your Wedding is a Happy One!
So to wake up beside my best friend, my soul mate, and realise that I’d committed to spend the rest of my life with him – there was no better feeling in the whole world.
And 23 years later, I still feel the same.
What would you choose as YOUR best experience ever? And how did you feel the morning after your wedding?
Also joining up with One Mother Hen for Open Slather.
What a great story !!!! I too married my best friend and soul mate. This year we celebrate our 26th anniversary and I wouldn’t swop him for anyone (even after the weekend from hell in Townsville !!!!)
Those of us with fantastic significant others are so very lucky – I hope I never take what we have for granted.
Have the best day !
Me
You’re right, we are VERY blessed and there’s not a day that I don’t thank God for my lovely man 🙂
You were very smart to get out before it was too late – I have a friend who had the same thoughts but didn’t get out – sad really 🙁 AND how cute that you and hubster used to work together and that’s how it all started. What a hottie you look in those pics 🙂
It was hard … but better a broken engagement than a divorce I’m sure. Breaking off an engagement was bad enough!
What a lovely story to share! And if I ever get to have the ‘day after your wedding’ experience I will be sure to share! lol….
I hope you do!
That’s a great story! Love happy endings :))
What a great story! And I’m so glad you followed your heart and didn’t marry the other guy. The day after my wedding I think I was still in shock – the hotel reception rang our room and said “Hello, is that Mrs CircleofToast?” and I wasn’t used to hearing myself referred to as ‘Mrs’, so I replied “Um, no, that’s my mother-in-law…” before the penny dropped. I felt like a total idiot! I was also four months pregnant at the time, so I’m blaming pregnancy hormones 😉
Ha ha, that’s hilarious!
That’s a beautiful wedding photo, you were a gorgeous bride. I was engaged before too, and SO glad I didn’t go through with that one. He is a shocking mess these days.
I love my wedding day, everything went to plan, it was fun. The next day it kinda felt like christmas, lots of planning and anticipation and then it is gone, all over and done with in a day.
I know what you’re talking about: the post wedding letdown. It took a bit longer to kick in for us as we’d never lived together before marriage, and with all the excitement of our honeymoon and moving into our new house … well, we were back at work before I came down to earth with a bump!
What a great story with such a fairytale ending with the perfect wedding 🙂
I know! I feel like Cinderella!
Such a beautiful story. I have been attracted the “bad boys” in the dating department, then I met my hubby and he was so nice, kind and respectful…so I married him. Best decision ever.x
Glad I’m not the only one who found a treasure!
Thanks for sharing such as great story – put a smile on my face.
Oh what a lovely story 🙂
I feel the same way. As an added bonus, we got married on Hubby’s birthday which of course was his best birthday ever!
Beautiful story. I was engaged to a guy before my current partner who was definitely a WTF was I thinking. I plead insanity whenever someone asks!
How beautiful Janet – that is a truly wonderful story. And so fantastic that you still feel the same way – thanks so much for sharing!
Gorgeous story thanks for sharing. We had been living together, purchased a house and I already felt married so waking up the next morning after our surprise wedding I felt relief that is was over and done with.
I’m not a wedding person, marriage yes but my sister in law was getting married at the same time, a rather over the top affair mainly due to mother in laws involvement (I think) and a friend also married at the same time spending $60k had a fountain in her wedding cake and then couldn’t afford a deposit for a house.
My parents were also going through a messy divorce as was most of the relatives on my side of the family and it was a day of nerves wondering who might offend who and what might happen. I believe my father and my mother’s new partner had a punch up in the bathroom.
So it’s probably safer to say, I enjoy weddings just not if my extended dysfunctional family are involved.
By eloping so to speak at our engagement beach party, meant that we kept it simple and had complete control.
Such a great story Janet!! I can hope that I am as lucky as you. It’s wonderful to hear you have married your soul mate, your best friend. Thanks for sharing this best experience!!
Aww lovely story!!
Honestly the day after our wedding we both woke up with heads a bit too sore to care about too much else! It was a fantastic day though and definitely one of my most favourite times ever. So lovely to hear that you feel the way you do about the hubster.
Lovely! I can definitely say that would be one if my greatest memories too!
The biggest thing that I felt when I got married at 18 was that I had this wanderful feeling inside me after I got married ! I really felt like we where one. It’s was the most amazing feeling!
What a lovely story! You look so happy in the photos! What a brave decision you made to walk away from the other relationship, so many people don’t!! 🙂
Thanks Jodie, I guess I look happy because I *was* (and am!) happy – even in the photo with the wedding dress that never made it to a wedding – because it was taken by the man who is now my hubster!