How do you handle it if you get the feeling someone doesn’t like you?
I’m not going to mention any names or particular situations – but there is this one woman (99% sure she doesn’t read my blog anyways), an acquaintance I keep encountering at various events.
And for some reason, I get the feeling she just doesn’t like me (I know, I can’t believe it either!).
On the surface, we seem to have a lot in common and live in the same area (hence the constant bumping into each other). She’s never been obviously rude or anything, it’s just a general vibe I’ve been getting.
For example:
- I could give anybody the benefit of the doubt, and think they are having a bad day once or twice, but she seems cool and disinterested every time.
- I would also chalk it up to shyness, but she seems friendly, outgoing and chatty enough. Just not with me.
- When we do find ourselves at an event together, we say hello and exchange a bit of small talk but that’s it.
- I’m wondering if her body language is what’s giving it away? There’s nothing specific that I remember, but she never wants to linger for conversation …
- She has never shown any interest in me, or getting together for a coffee, despite all we seem to have in common.
- Although connected on social media, we don’t talk.
- She makes me feel uncomfortable.
For some reason she is just not that into me!
To be honest, I feel like she is looking down her nose at me – but again, I can’t really pinpoint why I feel that way. I’m so lovable and cute, it’s hard to believe!
Mostly I don’t let it bother me. I remind myself that everybody’s different, maybe she already has more friends than she can handle, who knows … but I must confess it does leave me quite mystified. There aren’t too many people I can’t get along with but she seems to be one of them.
Do you ever get the feeling that someone doesn’t like you – and how do you handle it?
Well I haven’t even met you and I love you! <3 I honestly don't care if someone doesn't like me (but I mean, who wouldn't, I'm pretty awesome lol!!). But I don't care to know about it! If she really doesn't like you, that is definitely her problem. 🙂
Thank you Denise – I like you too and especially the fact that you’ve left a comment makes you a winner in my books! I’m a little disappointed to be honest that this woman has shown absolutely no interest in getting to know each other better, but like you say, I figure it’s her loss.
I know exactly what you mean. I have the same thing with someone – and I don’t know why and can’t put my finger on it, but it’s there. And I always try harder, which I shouldn’t do!
YES! Me too Jo.
You just don’t click with some people! Even more confusing is where you have been friends with someone for relatively long period then suddenly you are no longer in their circle of friends..no likes or comments in facebook, no invitation to coffee and your invitations are politely declined. What the hell did I do???
Lyn if you honestly can’t work out why you might have offended them, I’d say the problem is with them, not you …
I guess it’s just a fact of life that not everyone has to like us even if as you say there seems to be commonality. Like Jo said it really isn’t worth trying harder and we never really know what else is going on in someone’s life. I’m sure you are not short of friends – concentrate on those.
Sage advice Jan!