• Skip to primary navigation
  • Skip to main content
  • Skip to primary sidebar
  • Skip to footer

Middle Aged Mama

Blogging about my Midlife Adventures

  • About
  • New? Start Here!
  • What’s Middle Age?!
  • Work With Me
  • As Seen In
  • Workshops
  • Fine Print
  • Contact
  • Show Search
Hide Search

Does this Woman Look Plus-Sized to You?

Janet Camilleri · 21/10/2019 · 2 Comments

When I look in the mirror, I see a middle aged woman carrying a bit of extra padding (especially around the tummy) – but I certainly don’t think of myself as “plus-sized”.

cuddling Lilah 1
In this photo I’m also carrying one of the grandkitties – this is Delilah (or Lilah as she is affectionately known)

But apparently I am.

Yes dear reader, after putting on a little weight over the winter, it turns out I am now officially wearing plus-sizes.

There is both good and bad about this.

Avella striped T shirt and denim shorts from Big W
Front view – wearing Avella striped T shirt and denim shorts from Big W (both size 16)

In a break from tradition (such a rebel!), I’ll do the bad news first.

The Bad News

Gaining weight – especially around my middle – is not ideal, considering my problems with high blood pressure and the increased potential for cardiac and other health issues. (Mind you, my grandma always had a decent pot belly and she lived to just a few weeks’ shy of her 101st birthday!)

The Good News

But you know me, always looking on the bright side. So here’s the good news: it has really increased my options when shopping for clothes!

For so long, I’ve been an “in betweenie” – falling somewhere between the largest in “normal” sizings, yet the “plus-sizes” were too big.

Crossroads palm leaf top back view
Back view – wearing size 18 Crossroads top
iconand Target Belle Curve pants (size 16)

I’ve been forced (LOL) to go clothes shopping and have discovered that the plus-sizes are perfect for my new shape. Although it’s dented my ego just a tad, that I am now wearing plus-sizes – so far I’m discovering the clothes aren’t half bad! I’m now wearing a size 18 in Kmart and Crossroads standard sizes, and a 16 (or occasional 18) in the plus-size ranges “Belle Curve” (Target) and Avella (Big W).

wearing Kmart top and Vivid pants
Wearing Kmart top (size 18) and pants from Vivid International (size 16)

And to think that I used to be so thin that people thought I was anorexic, and I despaired of ever putting on weight! At our wedding nearly 30 years ago, I was a good 30+ kilograms lighter.

The rising numbers on my bathroom scales could be related to medication I’m taking, or good old middle age. Or it could be the usual boring reasons – eating too much of the “wrong” food, and not exercising enough.

rust coloured kmart top size 18 and Target Belle Curve pants in size 16
Kmart top (size 18) and Target Belle Curve pants (size 16)

Anyway, I digress, this was not meant to be a whinge about my weight. Instead, it’s merely an observation that I am now wearing plus-sizes – and yet I don’t think I look plus-sized at all.

I am Officially Obese

I’ve long thought the whole Body Mass Index thing is not really accurate – for starters, I think it needs to take our age into consideration. I thought I was doing pretty okay but my BMI (find your BMI here) has put me in the “overweight” category for years. And now? I’ve officially crossed the threshold from “overweight” into “obese” territory!

Wearing Crossroads top size 18
Does this woman look obese to you?!

Seriously?!

I might be considered “obese” and I might be wearing plus-sizes – but I don’t feel fat. I don’t think I look particularly fat either.

Am I suffering from a severe case of body dysmorphia, or just plain in denial? Or maybe I just manage to dress well for my size?

Or should I blame it on society: despite the prevalence of skinny fashion models and actors, “our perception of what’s normal has changed, from the size of people’s bodies to the volume of people’s meal portions” (full article at the Daily Telegraph).

What are your thoughts on plus-sized fashion and the whole BMI calculation?



Filed Under: Fashion & Beauty

Reader Interactions

Comments

  1. Megan Davies says

    31/12/2019 at 11:22 am

    I feel like I look about your size, folks don’t usually think I am overweight. The body mass index and the waist hip ratio have nothing good to say about my health though. But the really stupid thing is my fit wears size 4 jeans daughter is rated as overweight.
    She is not tall , what folks used to call a mesomorph an athletic build.
    It’s ridiculous scale.

    Reply
    • Janet Camilleri says

      04/01/2020 at 10:39 am

      I’m glad I’m not the only one that thinks so Megan!!!!

      Reply

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Primary Sidebar

Meet the Middle Aged Mama

Janet Camilleri is an Australian bloggerHi - I'm Janet Camilleri aka the Middle Aged Mama; crazy cat lady, award-winning business woman, and mother of two grown children. I might be a middle aged woman, but that doesn't mean I've lost all interest in looking stylish! I love chocolate, chick lit, cruising holidays and the husbear - and not necessarily in that order wink. I live in Brisbane, Australia, and I'm learning how to fashion a new life now that we have an empty nest - did somebody say "travel"?!

Middle Aged Mama logo

Ads & Affiliates




Topics

  • Blogging, Reading & Writing
  • Fashion & Beauty
  • Health & Wellbeing
  • Home & Garden
  • Leisure
  • Memories
  • Middle Age
  • Rants & Ramblings
  • Relationships & Parenting
  • Travel
  • Work & Finances

Follow My Adventures On:

Facebookpinterestrssinstagram

Footer

Archives

where you can find me

How to dress over 40

Bloggernity

Blog Directory

Search Middle Aged Mama

© 2025 Janet Camilleri / Middle Aged Mama