Let me preface this post by saying, I am married to a wonderful man.
Wonderful, but not perfect.
I also like to think he is married to a wonderful woman – again, not perfect, but pretty darn good.
But it seems wonderful women and wives are a dime a dozen. Wonderful men and husbands? Not so much.
How do I know?
“You’re So Lucky to Have Him!”
I’ve lost count of the number of people who have told me how lucky I am, to have such a wonderful husband.
Obviously I am in agreement with them – I wouldn’t have married him otherwise! But the point I’m trying to make is this; it doesn’t seem to work the other way.
As in, he hasn’t had a constant stream of people telling him how lucky he is, to have such a wonderful wife (yes, I might have asked him!).
There is no doubt I married a gem.
He is courteous, and has lovely manners. He thanks me for dinner pretty much every time I cook, and has always been the sort to open doors for others.
He’s a wonderful conversationalist and is in touch with his feelings; he is attentive and shows obvious affection for me. I’m not talking over-the-top PDA’s (public displays of affection) – but the little things, like holding my hand, smiling at me, putting his arm around me.
He’s well groomed. While he might not be the trendiest dude on the block, he is rockin’ his own clean cut style.
He’s a wonderful father. He was always a very hands on dad – changing nappies, looking after the kids etc. When I was breast feeding, he would insist on getting up to keep me company during night feeds, I never had to do it alone. And he’s always pitched in with the housework, grocery shopping, vacuuming, washing etc.
I could go on and on. He’s a hard worker; a man of integrity and character; loyal; responsible; decent; respectful; kind; caring; considerate; thoughtful; and helpful. Well … you get the idea.
Some people might call a man like this, a “sensitive new age guy”.
I prefer to think of it as something more old-fashioned – a true gentleman.
What Can I Say?!
I’ve always struggled to know how to respond when somebody tells me, “You’re so lucky to have him!”
Is a lovely husband really that rare?
Shouldn’t all men help take care of the kids and the household chores? Shouldn’t marriage be about teamwork?
Is it really just a matter of luck? I saw the admirable qualities in my my husband long ago, and <NEWSFLASH> chose to marry him!
The hubster knows how I feel about this topic. A few years ago he even gave me a card which said “I’m the Lucky One!” on the front – it’s become a bit of an inside joke. If I ever happen to mention that I’m lucky to be married to him, he comes back straight away with, “No, I’m the lucky one!”
We’ll just have to agree that we’re BOTH lucky, I think!
How do you respond if somebody says: “You’re so lucky to have him!”?
oh I so hear you and I so get you – I too have the same thing said to me but not once has anyone said it to hubby!!!
I get so annoyed, and the other thing I get annoyed with – oh is your Hubby giving you time out by babysitting the kids!!!
Hello – they are his kids too, they are not being baby sat by their own dad.
I totally get why people say it to me cause I am very lucky – but he is lucky too to have married me as I have to put up with his shit as well as his good stuff {and the same the other way around}
See its all about partnership hey!
YES! The babysitting thing – you’re so right, it’s his kids too. I wouldn’t have married a man that wasn’t prepared to take on an equal role.
That’s a good question! I’ve never thought about it before. Now you’ve got me thinking…..